What should my daughter call my cousin? [Archive]

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Truthfully, I would ask your cousin what he would like to be called and go with that. Full Cousin: The child of your aunt or uncle.

It seems like you're the only one who has a problem with it. If you want to refer specifically to your cousin's son or daughter, it's easiest to just say that.

Cousins Explained

My husband and I are very close to my cousin and her husband. They have a daughter who is 4 months younger than my son. We got together over the holiday and I realized that my son doesn't have a name for my cousin. In my husband's family middle eastern they call all elders except parents Aunt or Uncle. Ironically in my cousin's husband's family hispanic it is the same. In my family, though, there is a huge emphasis on proper labeling. An aunt is an aunt, a great aunt is a great aunt and my mother even did copious amounts of research into great vs. No difference, by the way, in case you were wondering. I suppose that my son could call my cousin and her husband aunt and uncle, but I'm wondering how you all have dealt with this. I'm not so much worried about my family being upset or offended because they are always upset and offended by something lol and I really have very little to do with them anyways. The thing is that my cousin has sisters with whom she is very close and I have brothers and I don't want to diminish the importance of my brothers title or her sisters title by calling everyone by that. I really dislike the notion of my son calling them cousin because there's no deference to the fact that my cousin is my son's elder. My mother would call her cousins Cousin John, but I never called them anything because I hardly knew them at all and they never had children. Plus, I never called my cousin cousin so and so, it was always first name. So i am wondering how you all have solved these complicated issues. You can refer to them as my cousin Suzy or my Mom's cousin Jane but when talking to them directly we called cousins of a similar age by their first name but what should my cousins child call me elder cousin is called Cousin Jane or Cousin Joe or you could just choose a title specially for her like Tia or Prima aunt or cousin in Spanish I just have my daughter call my cousins Aunt and Uncle - she's only 3 and when she is older I figure I'll be able to explain the difference but for right now I want adults to be either Aunt and Uncle, or Mr. We have some really good friends that have Aunt and Uncle status too. Think of it as a sign of respect to give them a title like that. I think it might also depend on the generation. I think it's rather cute when people use the word cousin. To me, it shows family unity I say that with no judgement on families it's just that since my own biological is so messed up, whenever I hear another family say endearing things like cousin or nonna. I think that is fine with everyone because we are all cousins. I also hate when a friend of mine has her kids call me Miss M. I don't make my kids call my friends Mr. I realize it is about respect and all but as long as a kid is not treating me badly they can just call me Melanie. Although my husband has 2 bff's and my boys call them Uncle Sean and Uncle Jimmy. Not sure why the boys kinda started it and it has stuck. My Aunt Linda is also my godmother, and is technically my cousin. That's just how we do it in our family. I think it's totally appropriate for children who have adult cousins to call them aunt and uncle. For those of you who mentioned having aunts and uncles only a couple years older than you, that's entirely different. Of course it would feel weird calling them aunt and uncle. And really, I guess it depends on what everyone is comfortable with in their own families. On my mother's side of the family, I have aunts and uncles that are about 8 years older than I am, and while I did call them aunt and uncle when I was a little girl and they were like teenagers, close to 20these days I call them by their first name or their pet names. My Aunt has a godchild that I grew up with we are the same age. I always referred to her as my Cousin, even tho' we are not related. My son calls her Nanny, and we call her parents Granny and Poppy. We refer to her children as my son's cousins. Our families have been intertwined for decades with no actual blood relations. It would give your cousin and her husband special names, and, clarify the relationship. Wow- you are putting way way too much thought into this one. Copious research into great vs. Truthfully, I would ask your cousin what he would like to be called what should my cousins child call me go with that. Having said that, my mother's male cousin is more like a brother to her and we call them Aunt and Uncle to reflect that relationship. In our family it depends on the relationship with the cousins. I have cousins for which I am extremely close almost more like siblings. And their kids are younger than mine and they just call me Mel, as I am their cousin but 30 years older. Someone below suggested ask your cousin. We all use first names in our family, but I have a cousin who just calls everyone Cousin John and Cousin Sue because it helps him keep them straight. For those who like accurate labels, it works. For those who want a title before someone's name if it's for a child addressing an adult, it works. My daughter is 13 and my sister is 15, they call each other by name, some times if they are felling funny, they will say aunt or niece, and get looks. My children have many adult cousins 2 are grandmas. It's just the respectful thing to do. I used to be told to do this as a child. It would've been better for me knowing the truth of the matter rather than what is deemed 'appropriate' old fashioned ettiquette for youngsters. I would avoid calling someone something they're not. I cannot imagine my kids or anyone else's calling me cousin anything. I have a name and everyone calls each other by their names. I have 47 first cousins on my dads side and over 15 on my moms. The Aunts and Uncles were addressed but Aunt and Uncle. I never heard anyone calling anyone cousin then their name. If it is your culture to do so then go by what your culture dictates. You could ask them what they would like to be called - they have a child, too, and the question may come up on what their daughter will call you as well. We aren't too formal in our family. I always refer to my sibs as Auntie or Uncle, but more times than not all the kids call the adults what should my cousins child call me their first names, except Mom, Dad, Grandma and Grandpa. Other than what you've mentioned, the only other label I've heard is Miss Jane or Mr. But do they the cousins want a special name. As a teen I called my cousin's uncle my aunt's brother Uncle Jason when I was around my cousins, and just Jason when I was not. The only reason I called him uncle was for the little kids, and he was about 21 when I was 14, and if we were all in the grocery store all together or something people wouldn't think it was weird. Unless we are building a family tree or something, then we will explain it more correctly- and show it on a chart. Families are complicated, and only get more so. Or use first names and skip it all. Probably as adults your kids will just use first names with distant relatives anyways. Technically in English they're 2nd cousins, and their children are 3rd cousins. One is a young guy in his 20s and we use his first name. The other who I am closer to is a woman in her 40s and we use Aunt. Don't feel compelled to find an honorarium for this person. Just use their first name if aunt doesn't feel right. We don't make our kids be formal with our closest friends and family. We were raised to call adult family friends, Aunt and Uncle. It was very disrespectful to call adults by their first name. Here in America it seems that everyone is on first name terms. I guess it differs by culture. What would mean the most to your cousin. Is there a word that is used middle eastern or hispanic that shows respect in addressing an adult. What about translating the word cousin into one of the other languages and have your son call them xxxxxxxx John. That may be interesting and fun.

But that could just be my culture. I am quite possibly one of the most Southern people in the U. If you want to refer specifically to your cousin's son or daughter, it's easiest to just say that. So, he's still my first cousin even though he died in 1835. Personally, in that situation I called my first-cousins-once-removed Ms. For example, your mother's first cousin is your first cousin, once removed. If you go up 2 generations on both sides, you are 1st cousins. In fact, my brother in law always corrects me when I talk about my dad and brother -you mean step dad; half brother-and I always have to remind him that I don't call them that and it bothers me that he finds it necessary to demean our relationship based on his insistence to stick to the correct definition of my step dad and half brother's status. Sibling: A person's brother or sister. Loss and Renewal: Australian Languages Since Colonisation.